One way of eliminating negative thought patterns is by surrounding yourself with positive people. Most beginning writers feel very vulnerable and uncertain. They are still trying to establish themselves and they have a lot of different skills to learn. But they are so excited too. The worse thing that a beginning writer can do is to surround themselves with negative people, be it writers or coaches or people in critique groups. It is essential to make sure that we are upbeat and remain that way during this important season of our writing career.
Sometimes we can be our own worst enemies too. We can have all of these negative thoughts about what we’re doing and not doing right. This can really create patterns of negative thinking that can last throughout our writing career. Thus, it is essential for you to stop negative thoughts in their tracks when you are starting out as a writer. Don’t forget, you’re just a new flower and you’re trying to cope with a very difficult environment. You can do it, but it will be very hard to do so.
Believing in your abilities as a writer is one of the most important things that you can do as a writer. This will motivate you to get your writing done and be the best writer you can be.
It can be difficult to believe in yourself, especially in the spring season. There are so many forces telling you that you’re not good enough. Then there is the constant barrage of rejection letters and put downs by editors and other writing peers in writing groups. All of these forces can wreak havoc with your self-confidence as a writer.
Here are a few tips to ensure that you believe in yourself:
1. Be your own spokesperson. Don’t put yourself down in front of other writers or peers. There is nothing that tells others louder that you are unsure of yourself. Instead, be positive about your abilities and compliment yourself in front of others.
2. Watch who you hang around with. Try not to hang around negative, skeptical writers all the time. Instead, find positive people to develop with. There are many positive writers out there. You just have to find them.
3. Carefully choose a critique group so that you can flourish as a writer. Don’t allow others to put you down or say I know better than you. You are just as much a writer as they are! Put downs can have a cumulative on your self-esteem as a writer.
4. Watch what you say to yourself over and over. Try not to say negative things about your abilities or writing to yourself. This can be hard to do sometimes since many of the things you may tell yourself may be unconscious. To become aware of them, you may have to write down every negative thing you say to yourself over a 24 hour period in your writing journal. Then try to replace these negative statements with positive ones. This will help you believe in yourself a lot more.
By trying some or all of these tips, you will start believing in yourself a lot more as a writer. In addition, your writing life will improve and you will enjoy your time at your desk if you are motivated to write. So, it’s a win-win for you if you believe in yourself as a writer.
Do you believe in yourself as a writer? What are some negative things that you say to yourself over and over?
Irene S. Roth