The hardest thing to do when you are writing your memoir is to face your emotions, even the rarest ones. The best way to do that is to choose to be honest and go back into the negativity so that you could move past your hurts and not be trapped by them in the next part of your life.
Facing negative emotions is never easy. However, when you do you will know it because you will probably feel just as frustrated and hurt as you did when the events happened many years ago. The good thing about memoir writing is that once you write about these events and put them on paper something happens—your psychic load is lessened and you could move past those negative emotions more easily.
However, in order to face these emotions, you try not to be afraid of facing all the emotions that you experienced before, and try to learn something from these experiences so that you don’t repeat these negative events in the future. The other thing to realize is that your experiences are probably not completely unique to you. Other people probably experienced similar things. This is why memoir writing is so powerful—we could always relate to another person’s plight on some level as we are reading their memoir. This makes us feel less alone and possibly less frustrated.
So, when facing these difficult emotions again, realize that you are making progress by coming to terms with these negative feelings, learning what you can from what happened and moving on. And as an additional bonus, you may be helping someone else to move on in their lives too.
However, to face these negative emotions you should not be scared of them. Instead, decide that you are going to embrace them again but this time with more control and composure. You are no longer trapped by these feelings not knowing what to do about them but you will be trying to learn from what happened. This is an additional bonus of writing your memoir.
Irene S. Roth
Freelance Writer, Author, and Editor
Irene S. Roth writes for teens, tweens, and kids about self-empowerment. She currently has two empowerment books published, one for tweens and one for kids. She also leads workshops on the craft of writing through Savvy Authors. She is also a Marketing Director for the National Writing for Children Center.