Are you an unhappy writer? If you are, chances are your happiness depends on things that are outside of you, such as if you are published or if others admire your writing and so on. But I believe that happiness comes from within. You can only achieve long-term happiness as a writer if you happy within yourself right this moment. Let me explain.
The happiest writers don’t look to others or anything outside of them to give them confidence. Instead, they try to develop confidence from within themselves by trying to become the best writer that they are capable of becoming. This can be difficult to do at first and it takes years—so we have to be patient. However, if a writer gives him/herself a few years to develop her skills, she will feel much more confident and successful.
What is more, the writer should enjoy writing. If a writer doesn’t enjoy writing, there is no reward, compliment or publication credit that can give her the happiness that she so richly deserves. Yet, there are so many unhappy writers. I think some of the reasons for this are as follows:
• They don’t like writing;
• They feel that they can’t write well;
• They don’t give themselves a chance to develop their skills;
• They are not self-starters;
• They are disorganized;
• They cannot complete their writing goals on their own;
• They need others to keep them motivated;
• They rely on others for compliments and acceptances before they feel successful as writers.
If you are a writer who depends on others to feel good as a writer, sadly you can only be frustrated and unhappy. The same holds if you look for immediate results. Instead, you should take a deep breath and believe that you will be a good writer one day. But in the meantime, you should enjoy the journey of becoming a writer and you should be content to take the small steps necessary to do your part to be the best that you can.
Irene S. Roth