WISDOM WEDNESDAYS

       Trusting Coaches
              
       Ideally, coaches are supposed to help you grow as a writer. And they
       do for the most part, especially if your coach is positive and offers
       constructive criticism at all times.
      
       However, despite our best attempts, that doesn’t always happen.
       Many times, sadly, the coach is less than positive, and the relationship
       between the coach and the writer becomes very negative and possibly
       toxic.  Here are some signs of negativity and toxicity between your
       coach and yourself:
      
            1. All of the feedback that comes of your coach, or most of it, is
            negative in nature.
      
            2. Her tone is negatively aggressive at all times. The coach may
            raise her voice or even shudder as she gives you her feedback on
            your manuscript.
      
            3. Any feedback that makes you feel bad all the time, and paralyzes
            you for days or even weeks. After all, you need to be encouraged
            but not discouraged.
      
            4. Any kind of bullying remarks, such as: You just don’t get this, do
            you? You keep doing the same thing over and over. You are not
            improving here; You must proofread your work very
            caaaaaaaaaaaarefuuuuuuuuly! and so on.
      
            5. There is never a time when your coach finds the manuscript
            acceptable. For instance, even after three or four revisions to a
            manuscript, she keeps finding more and more wrong with it.
      
       In conclusion, if you constantly feel beat down and hurt by your
       coach, you don’t have to put up with it. You are paying a lot of money
       for a service that is NOT working for you. God knows there are a lot of
       coaches around. Just make sure you find someone who is positive and
       who can help you to grow as a writer. 
       
       ~ Irene

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