SELF-REFLECTIVE TUESDAYS

      Topic: Toxic Writing Partners
       Irene S. Roth
     
   
       Today’s topic is dear to my heart. I know that I have been talking about the
       positive aspects of writing partnerships over the months. However, today, I
       want to reflect on toxic writing partnerships. I want to discuss them because
       they can stifle a writer’s creativity and possibly ruin writing projects.
      
       Most writing partnerships start out very positively. They are inspiring and
       motivating. The writing partners find the other person very encouraging and
       very engaging. The writing partner helps the other person write consistently,
       complete writing projects, and just know that they are good and have a lot to
       offer. So, what happens?  Why does all heck break loose after a while? How can
       a relationship that was initially so positive become so negative and toxic over
       time?
      
       One of the main reasons why writing partners go from being positive
       influences to negative ones is jealousy. All of the sudden, one of the two people
       in the partnership feels inept and inadequate. But instead of trying to do better
       themselves, they feel they have to do whatever they can do to put the other
       person down and possibly destroy their reputation with a prospective editor.
      
       One of my close friends recently just had that kind of experience. She was so
       heartbroken. She didn’t know how a writing partnership could go from
       invigorating to soul destroying in what seemed like a few days. I tried to
       encourage her to move on and to forget about this particular partnership and
       try to form another one that was much better for her. Unfortunately, her book
       deal also fell through, making her feel even worse. It looks as if it will be really
       difficult for her to get that particular editor to look at her work objectively from
       now on. It seems like my friend’s toxic writing partner totally wrecked that
       relationship with the editor. Little did my friend know, they editor and her x-
       writing partner were as close as thieves, and her x- writing partner could
       manipulate the editor just as if she were clay.
      
       Writing partnerships, like any friendships, can become toxic and soul
       destroying over a very short period of time. There is no real rhyme or reason to
       it really, except maybe the green-eyed monster. When this happens, try not to
       take it personally and know that, when the other partner becomes toxic, it has
       little to do with you and says so much more about the person who is causing
       the dislocation.
      
       ~ To Writing past Toxic Writing Partnerships!
       ~ Irene

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