Do you feel overwhelmed as a beginning writer? Do you
feel anxious and don’t know where to turn? Do you have
mentors and coaches who are making you feel worse rather
If you answered ‘yes’ to any of these questions, please
know that you’re not all alone. MANY writers are in your
boat and some will quit. And that is a real pity.
Beginning writers are very vulnerable. They feel out of
place so easily. They are like a baby plant that is trying to
root but that is having difficult because of all the emotional
storms and uprootedness that comes with setting yourself
up as a freelance writer.
If you feel this way, take heart. I feel so much like you. I
feel very insecure, and one criticism, be it small or large, can
send me screaming into the dark night of oblivion and
dismay. But I then try and brush myself up and continue on
in my journey.
As a teacher, I remember how careful I ALWAYS am to
make sure that I don’t make my students feel awful with my
comments. I am careful to be encouraging, while giving
them constructive feedback on their writing and essay
But some teachers don’t have that grace. Some mentors
and coaches aren’t very careful with giving feedback, and
this is especially the case with negative feedback.
So, if you have a mentor or a coach who is supposed to be
inspiring you, yet seems to be doing the opposite, it is
important for you to take steps to make sure that you have a
much more positive experience with the individual. You
may want to speak to the mentor directly and let her know
how you feel about her comments. Or you may want to get
another mentor to work with. Otherwise, if you are feeling
discouraged instead of encouraged, it is time to do
something about your relationship with your mentor.
~ Happy writing everyone!