Do you have unhealthy mentors or role models as
you are starting out in your writing career? If you do,
that is another bit of clutter for you to throw out before
you start your writing career.
Unhealthy mentors are individuals who are
supposed to be helping you in your writing career but
who are making you feel so awful that you can’t
function as a writer. For some writers, such individuals
may want them to quit writing altogether.
Sometimes, these unhealthy mentors could be
writing coaches. A lot of coaches believe that it IS okay
to put other writers down with the (seeming) intention
of helping them. Yes, beginning writers need
instruction and they need to get better, but they DON’T
NEED TO BE HUMILIATED by them.
A lot of writers pay a lot of money to be coached to
become better writers too. And yet they feel unfit to be
a writer. Isn’t there something wrong with this picture?
Yes, I certainly think that there is something grossly
wrong with this. If this is happening to you, talk to
your coach or mentor openly. Sometimes, she may not
want to be hurting you. But if you talk to the individual
openly about how you are feeling and the behaviour
still continues, seek another person that will coach your
Believe in yourself as a writer and a person, even if
you are a beginner, to honour yourself. Even though
you need to learn a lot about your craft, you DON’T
need to be humiliated and put down.
So, writers, take care of your vulnerable heart and
soul at the beginning and find a coach who really cares
about you and who will respect you while you learn the
techniques of writing.